What is Sexy?

Sexy.
Definition of sexy


1: sexually suggestive or stimulating : EROTIC
2: generally attractive or interesting : APPEALING; a sexy stock

Synonyms for sexy

• bodacious, 
• desirable, 
• dishy, 
• hot, 
• luscious, 
• toothsome

Thank you, Merriam-Webster.

This helps us to clarify what we already knew about the word...but what IS sexy. 
Really. 
What is it to you? 
All of the terms and descriptions listed above make it sound like a term used to label or describe something or someone.  

My personal opinion? 

Sexy is a feeling.  I don't just mean a feeling of confidence or a momentary boost given by a partner or even a random stranger who compliments you.  I mean a feeling that you ARE sexy, that you embody sexiness, you have the carnal power within you to be whoever and whatever you desire to be.  

You don't need to be in a relationship to feel sexy.
You don't need to buy an entirely new wardrobe to feel sexy. 
You don't need a makeover to feel sexy. 

So what DO you need? 

Excellent question! 

You NEED to.... let go.   

Let go of the societal standards that have been drilled into your mind for your entire life.  
Let go of your perception of sexy as it has been embedded into your daily life by magazines and social media. 

Once you've let go of all of that.... 
Introduce yourself to new ideas of sexy.  Allow yourself to learn what really makes you feel your most sensual and ALIVE.  For some that might be getting a massage, going all day without a bra...in PUBLIC,  wearing make up (for yourself) for the first time in a while, or going without make up for the first time in years.... taking a dance class (whether it's ballroom, ballet, or pole...) Do something for YOU and watch how it completely empowers you in ways you never thought possible. 

I realize as I write this that the things I mention here may not seem too far outside the norm, you may take a regular dance class, get weekly massages and not even own a bra or mascara... and that's fine!   You just have to try things and find what works for you.  We are all different.  We are beautifully designed that way.  Which is also something that makes us sexy!!! 

As a boudoir photographer, I find that most women who come to me, do not see themselves as sexual beings. 
Mothers, who have watched their body change significantly over the years. 
Women who have been in toxic relationships and made to feel like they aren't worthy or deserving of anything good. 
I could go on.... and on..... and on.
SO many women come to me with insecurities and "flaws" that only THEY can see.  Literally every woman I've ever photographed has had something that they see "wrong" with them.  
That is INSANE.  And yes-I'm guilty of it, myself, probably more so than most of my clients.  But I'm also here to tell you that we are crazy to think we are anything less than perfectly how we are meant to be.  So learn to accept yourself, as you are.  Then you can find the path to actually LOVE who you are, how you look....and feel SEXY! 

Now, with all of that said, I'm going to leave you with some images of women that are all different in appearance.... but also incredibly, undeniably S.E.X.Y.
(c) Bethany May Photography

​***A little note to inform you that as I published this blog, I made a post on social media asking what SEXY meant to people and the #1 thing each response had in common.....
CONFIDENCE.
Interesting. 
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